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January 29, 2015

Loving Yourself for Valentine's Day

by Cristina Stoain of Crisspix
I used to think of Valentine's Day as a cruel joke.

Why would you decide to celebrate love in the middle of the Winter?  Why the focus on sexy right after everyone's been celebrating for Christmas or Hannukah or just eating because it's cold?  Is the January of resolutions supposed to somehow make up for that?

Now, I think of Valentine's Day entirely differently.

What better time to celebrate that you AND your partner love you for who you are -- and who you want to be!

I'm 43 and feeling better than ever about my body.  When I was young and thin with no dimples on my thighs, I hated my body.  I thought I was fat.  I only focused on what was wrong with it.

Now, when I look back at photos of myself, I just shake my head in wonder.  How could I think I was fat?  It's crazy-talk.  But -- beating myself up for feeling bad is not going to help anyone.

So last summer, I decided I was sick of feeling less-than about my body.  I talked to my friend Karin Bosscher, a Wellness Coach, and Shannon Sodano, a nutritionist and yogi, and we launched the Body-Love Facebook group.

As I looked for photos to market the group, I found this one of myself in a bikini with my oldest daughter.  I remember asking my husband to take this photo so I could "empirically" determine whether it was okay for me to wear a bikini.

Now, I look at this photo and just think -- wow, I looked really good! 

The challenge for me now is to accept the body I have right now.  I can look back and see that my self-image and reality didn't match.  The question is whether I can accept and love the body I have in present time.

I love this quote about having a bikini body.  How to get a bikini body?  Get a bikini and go to the beach!

It's so hilarious because it's so straightforward.  Could it really be that simple?

My husband and I are going to Hawaii tomorrow to celebrate a big win he had this past year.  It's like a Valentine's Day body-positive challenge, but in public!! 

I just recently ordered a bunch of swimsuits for our trip -- bikinis being some of them.  This time, I tried them on for my husband, which he took as a treat in and of itself.  How cute is that?

I asked him to tell me truthfully if he'd feel comfortable with me wearing any of the bikinis in public.

He said, "I think you look great.  But, it doesn't matter at all YOU are feeling self-conscious the whole time.  Keep the best one as a challenge to yourself."

He loves me and loves my body.  The challenge is for me to love my body as much as he does!

Ho'oponopono
So what to do?  I did two cleanses last year and loved them.  I know how great my body feels when I eat healthily, exercise regularly and get enough sleep.  I know how to course-correct after over-indulging. 

But the negative self-talk is powerful stuff.  I'm learning how to handle it with my Money Mindset Coach Katie Goode, who is helping me propel myself forward during my re-launch.  When the negative thoughts come up, I am to forgive myself and release them. 

But, how?

In honor of my trip to Hawaii, I've decided to try the Hawaiian mantra, Ho'oponopono.  It goes, "I'm sorry.  Please forgive me.  I love you.  Thank you."  I learned about it from  Happy Working Mum creator Emily Thorpe, then it came into my email box again last week from TasteDaily.

When something is showing up that much in my life, I have to take it seriously!

I'm going to say it to my body every time I see it until I feel powerful enough to put on that bikini and walk out the door with confidence.  When I think about how many aspects of my life I've already changed for the better, I know I can do this for myself as well.  Words are powerful!

And I'm bringing that bikini with me to Hawaii.


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January 26, 2015

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January 19, 2015

Feeling Free

http://blog.freepeople.com/
Feeling free has so many inflections for each of us.  With the recent tragedy in Paris, I was immediately brought back to that sunny day in September, when a jet plane flew over my building straight into the Twin Towers.

The radio went dead and, spurred by a neighbor, we went up to the roof.

We saw the first building on fire.  We ran down to turn on the TV, to find out what had happened -- but we knew before they did.  They were still talking about a Cessna and we knew the buildings had been hit by a jumbo jet.

It was an uncanny feeling -- knowing something before the news media.

It underlines for me how we depend on journalists every day to tell us the truth -- and they often risk their lives doing so.

Truth telling is a brave business.  It is not a job simply for journalists or satirists.  It is a job for all of us.

http://latifalshamsi.com
The semiotics of dress show that style aligns you with something -- whether it's preppy conservatism, the "luxury" of haute couture or something else entirely.

When you put on your clothes, you send a message about who you are.  You anoint yourself with the power of that association whether it's your hijab or your Hermes.

Are you telling the truth about who you are?
  • Are you existing in a no-man's-land where you're uneasy and feel out of your depth with your style, so you try to ignore it?  
  • Do you find yourself overwhelmed by all the choices, so instead you opt for what you already have -- even though it doesn't feel good at all?
  • Is the idea of style being easy deeply appealing?
By Theo Wenner
Imagine you have the freedom to embrace what you love -- with no doubts or worry -- because you know it's right for you.

Imagine walking out the door feeling excited about what's next instead of dreading your event because you don't feel good about what you're wearing.

Imagine that feeling easy.

I understand.  I used to feel confused about who I was and who I wanted to be, so I did my best to blend in everywhere I went.  Sometimes, I succeeded.  Mostly, I didn't.

Then, I decided to embrace my own path.

I wanted to be a cool City Mom, so I became one.  I wanted to be a stylist, so I did.  I wanted to exercise my right to be imperfect, so I do.

I want to empower you to do the same.  #JeSuisCharlie.


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January 12, 2015

DailyOutfit's January Look

Since I spent the good part of last week in bed recovering from the 'flu we picked up in Italy, which means I spent the better part of last week in my PJ's.  It made me realize I haven't posted about sleepwear in a really long time, so I went straight to the Bloomie's site to see what I could find.

Self-care is so important to great style.  No one looks or feels great if they're not taking good care of themselves.

My recipe for getting well?  Cuddle up in delicious sleepwear with a good book and cup of tea.

Luckily, everything is on sale this week, so you can update it ALL!

 

MISSES: 

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PETITES: 

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PLUS: 

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Go on, girl.  Look out for number one!

Make your sleepwear as awesome as your everyday wear as awesome as your workwear as awesome as your going-out clothes.  You can do it!


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