|by Cristina Stoain of Crisspix|
Why would you decide to celebrate love in the middle of the Winter? Why the focus on sexy right after everyone's been celebrating for Christmas or Hannukah or just eating because it's cold? Is the January of resolutions supposed to somehow make up for that?
Now, I think of Valentine's Day entirely differently.
What better time to celebrate that you AND your partner love you for who you are -- and who you want to be!
I'm 43 and feeling better than ever about my body. When I was young and thin with no dimples on my thighs, I hated my body. I thought I was fat. I only focused on what was wrong with it.
Now, when I look back at photos of myself, I just shake my head in wonder. How could I think I was fat? It's crazy-talk. But -- beating myself up for feeling bad is not going to help anyone.
As I looked for photos to market the group, I found this one of myself in a bikini with my oldest daughter. I remember asking my husband to take this photo so I could "empirically" determine whether it was okay for me to wear a bikini.
Now, I look at this photo and just think -- wow, I looked really good!
The challenge for me now is to accept the body I have right now. I can look back and see that my self-image and reality didn't match. The question is whether I can accept and love the body I have in present time.
I love this quote about having a bikini body. How to get a bikini body? Get a bikini and go to the beach!
It's so hilarious because it's so straightforward. Could it really be that simple?
I just recently ordered a bunch of swimsuits for our trip -- bikinis being some of them. This time, I tried them on for my husband, which he took as a treat in and of itself. How cute is that?
I asked him to tell me truthfully if he'd feel comfortable with me wearing any of the bikinis in public.
He said, "I think you look great. But, it doesn't matter at all YOU are feeling self-conscious the whole time. Keep the best one as a challenge to yourself."
He loves me and loves my body. The challenge is for me to love my body as much as he does!
But the negative self-talk is powerful stuff. I'm learning how to handle it with my Money Mindset Coach Katie Goode, who is helping me propel myself forward during my re-launch. When the negative thoughts come up, I am to forgive myself and release them.
In honor of my trip to Hawaii, I've decided to try the Hawaiian mantra, Ho'oponopono. It goes, "I'm sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you." I learned about it from Happy Working Mum creator Emily Thorpe, then it came into my email box again last week from TasteDaily.
When something is showing up that much in my life, I have to take it seriously!
I'm going to say it to my body every time I see it until I feel powerful enough to put on that bikini and walk out the door with confidence. When I think about how many aspects of my life I've already changed for the better, I know I can do this for myself as well. Words are powerful!
And I'm bringing that bikini with me to Hawaii.
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