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September 20, 2016

Feeling at home

With my class at my 25th Reunion
When people ask me, "Where are you from?" I don't really know the answer.  It's a perennial issue for an expat and one I avoided for a long time.

At my high-school reunion, I mentioned growing up overseas when asked how I'm liking living in The Netherlands. I was surprised to discover most people didn't know (or didn't remember) me as an expat kid.

But, I knew the reason why I had kept this information to myself then.  As I young person, I was afraid of the conclusions people might draw.  So, I just didn't share.

With my husband at the Primavera Sound Festival in Barcelona

Recently, I've bumped up against many different pieces of myself.  In London, where I spent my childhood, it's changed so much, I didn't feel at home at all -- and yet, I felt completely okay with that.

But, when I went to my childhood friend Ruth's house, even though it was for the first time, I felt at home immediately.

In Barcelona, among the hipster music crowd, I realized I didn't need the codes of geek glasses and a hoodie to feel like I belonged.  I wore what I like -- and that felt awesome.

Rocking out at St. Andrew's
As I sat on the front lawn at my high school, I remembered how hard I worked to blend in sartorially as a student.  Coming back, it was a challenge to think about what to wear to given who I am now.

There were events where I succeeded and felt that rush of confidence putting on the right outfit -- and later, totally rocked it!

There were other events where I didn't quite pull it off.  This still bothers me.  But, I am working on accepting my mistakes.  After all -- style is for living, not the other way around!

With my husband in London

What I practice is a kind of style alchemy.  I can decode you and help you create a wonderful mix of what looks great, feels great, and what is specifically and uniquely YOU. 

Ultimately, this is the game for me and the result I want for my clients:  to be able to walk into any situation and feel absolutely at home -- no matter where you are!

It's always a work-in-progress, as are we all, but if you can feel comfortable and present yourself as yourself the majority of the time, then you can focus on why you're there in the first place.

Ultimately, the goal of personal style is to set you up to be present for your own success.  I know you have it in you -- so let's rock it!

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